Are you concerned that your words don’t match your intentions? Could your body language be costing you valuable relationships? Read these tips to help yourself project your best image.
I am not making reference to your external physical appearance. I am referring to your inner self, your beliefs. How do you see yourself? Do you worry too much about what others think about you? Do you avoid taking new challenges out of fear of making mistakes?
What if I told you you are not alone? Those fears and insecurities are more common than you think. In fact, most people have them, even those who seem to always shine and do everything right. You know who I am talking about. That person who always says the right thing at the right moment. The one everyone else wants to be around and admires.
Well, you’re no different. You are perfectly capable of taking on new challenges and shine just like that person. The only difference is how you see yourself and how you project yourself. You see, when you exude confidence, you project a better image which leads to being better accepted by others.
One of the best ways to do this is taking on new challenges. This seems risky but let me explain why you should try it.
When you decide to take on a new challenge and you succeed, little by little you shut down that voice that lurks in the back of your brain and and chews away confidence. Once you overcome that obstacle it becomes easier for you to tackle new ones. As this happens, you gradually get more comfortable with the idea and start building a strong foundation of beliefs. Eventually your confidence boosts, you sense it mentally, show it physically and others take notice. Pretty soon you become the “it” person. Now you are valued as an essential member of the team.
To make things easier and get you started in changing your mindset to project a better image I’m going to number three things you can do:
What if you make a mistake, you may ask. That’s a topic for the next blog post. Until then, what changes are you going to make? Which of these ideas make the most sense to you? Have any advice about representing your brand? If you want to bounce some ideas with me let’s talk.
Summer is here and this brings some well deserved break. The kids are not in school and for most, the hectic routine slows down a bit. Thank goodness for vacation, right? We can take time off and spend it with family and friends or even go on a trip. During the summer people are more willing to read books maybe because they are able to slow down. For a minute they can stop and smell the roses.
If you are looking to read books for personal and professional growth, I want to share with you some that I have enjoyed and helped when making important life and work-related decisions in the past.
The first one is Lean In, Sheryl Sandberg’s well known bestseller. In it she shares her own experiences as a student and then as she climbed the ladder (she refers to it as “monkey bars”) all the way to her present position at Facebook. I love how she empowers women by inviting them to “Sit at the table” and to “not leave until you leave”. I took her advice to heart and started seating at the table at department meetings. You see, cardiology has traditionally been a male dominated field and I am still working at the same hospital where I trained. That means I am working with people who may still see me as their junior and I have to confess I may see some of them as my mentors. Talking about pressure!
The first time I decided to sit at the table was not easy but I was determined to sit there and only if I was asked to move then I would. Well, I sat there and to my surprise no one asked me to move. Not only that, in future meetings I was expected to sit at the table and contribute. Wow! I had just been accepted! Not really…I had been accepted long time ago, I just didn’t believe I deserved it. Now I know I do.
The second book is Getting a Grip by Monica Seles. She was the #1 tennis player until a fan of her opponent entered the court and stabbed her in the back. She not only had to deal with the emotional and physical damage from her wound, but her ranking dropped quickly afterwards. In a second she went from being the #1 woman in the world to losing it all. This was not some error she made that she would fix with practice for her next game. To top it all, her father got sick with cancer.
In her book she passionately describes her struggles to get back on the court, gaining weight and trying to lose it, as well as coping with her father’s disease and his eventual death. You can almost feel her powerlessness among the tragedy. I love how she describes the way she finds herself and gets a grip. As an athlete in my younger age who had to stop doing sports due to lesions and the demands of medical school, residency, and dealing with my own father’s disease and eventual death to cancer I totally identify with her life story.
It really opened my eyes to the curve balls that life throws at you and that you cannot force yourself to get out of certain situations. You have to be mentally ready otherwise you continue slipping and falling no matter how hard you try. You need to have the right mindset.
I read these books a few years ago. More recently I started How Remarkable Women Lead, by Johanna Barsh and Susie Cranston. This one caught my eye while scanning through the aisles of the bookstore. I can’t remember what I was looking for, but when I saw the title I started reading it right then and there and couldn’t stop. The author starts by describing experiences lived since her daughter’s childhood years all the way to adulthood and how she helped her child respond to challenges and fears. Needless to say this is on my night stand and I have to read at least a few pages every night.
I invite you to read these books if you haven’t yet or other books that you find interesting. The summer is here and while the days are longer the season goes by quickly. Take advantage of the break to find ways to help yourself get to where you want to be in life. Before you know it we will be back to packing lunches, hectic mornings and running out the door to make it on time to carpool before the bell rings.
June is here! Can you believe the first half of the year has passed? You know what that means, right?
A little over six months ago many of you made goals and resolutions for this year. You made the decision to write down a list of things you wanted to accomplish. Were your resolutions to lose weight, run a marathon, change jobs or have more time for yourself? What you have done so far? Have you forgotten all about it?
It happens to all of us, myself included. We have the best intentions to do something, but then as time goes by we get busy and tend to leave things for later. It may have been that “things got in the way” or “life happened”. Sometimes we take too many responsibilities knowing that we are already booked but we don’t want to disappoint others by saying no. The problem is that we end up disappointing ourselves and not doing the things that will help us accomplish our goals. We put ourselves last and our goals never get done.
If you find yourself making the same list year after year and not accomplishing anything, it’s time to revisit. The good thing is you still can go back and act on those resolutions. Be determined. Whether you have to start anew or get back on track is just a matter of taking action.
In order to make things happen it’s necessary to prioritize. Identify what is making you deviate from accomplishing your goals. Are you spending time doing something that doesn’t help you get where you want to be? Do you find yourself watching TV for 4 hours straight instead of dedicating 30 minutes a day to exercise? Are you dreading your job every day but haven’t yet updated your CV?
If you have not made your goals a priority it is unlikely that you will see any change. You got six more months to act before the end of the year. Now is time to put them in your calendar, set an alarm and make them happen. Go on, you can do this. There’s still time! I even invite you to add another goal to your list: make the resolution to complete your goals and not letting anything get in the way.
Have a successful second half of the year!
As I am coaching clients, I frequently get asked about the different types of social media platforms and what is their use. People are often confused trying to understand them. I have to be honest, when I started developing my brand I as a little confused too, about which social media platform was optimal for my business and how to use them.
You see, each platform has a different way of presenting the information about your business and brand. Since it is too ambitious to be on every platform, you want to make sure that the purpose of the one you are using aligns with your message.
Here I am going to give you my interpretation of the ones I use and how they can help you present your brand and move forward in your business:
Regardless of what platforms you use, one thing is common to all of them: You need to be consistent in your message and post frequently to be effective for your business. Contact me to help you use social media for your business.
As the year goes by, networking events start to happen and people start to attend more. A couple of years ago I was attending a meeting where a marketing expert was guiding us on errors that people make during networking and how to avoid them. I want to share some I think can make the difference between a successful event and a less than optimal experience.
1. Not knowing how to interact with others. Let’s be realistic, it is hard to mix and mingle in a room full of strangers. If you understand that people who attend these events usually do not know others, then you are not at a disadvantage. Try starting the conversation with small talk and evolve from there.
2. Bringing a friend. Not that it is totally wrong, but if you spend the event with someone you know, other people may find it hard to “break the union” to introduce themselves. If you bring someone, make it clear that when you get to the venue you will split and go by yourself around the room to meet others.
3. Handing a business card to everyone at first sight. I’ve said it before, the purpose of networking is to make connections and to know the person before making any business deal or transaction. People feel uncomfortable when a total stranger insists on giving them their card and other marketing materials without getting to know them first.
4. Asking for everyone’s business card. Everyone knows you want to grow your email list and get more customers, but it makes an awkward situation when people ask for someone’s business card without first knowing what that person does.
5. Hanging out too long. You may have clicked right away with this person you just met and you may be having this great conversation going, but other people in the same space may want to know you too. You may be missing on meeting other equally great connections if you spend all the time with only one.
6. Drinking more than you should. While I have not yet seen this, does it need an explanation? You should know how much is enough and exert self-control. You most definitely don’t want people to remember you for the wrong reason.
I’m going to stop here now to keep the list short. I hope you can network successfully and if you are hesitant on connecting with new people, this helps break that barrier. If you are a seasoned at networking, feel free to share your experiences.
“How do you do it?” I get asked this question almost on a daily basis. As a female Cardiologist, in solo private practice who is also a wife and mother, I happen to be asked this question a lot by other women in cardiology. Usually these are younger women still in training who are either thinking about their future career and having a family.
It makes me truly proud to see more women engaging in careers that are still traditionally male-dominated however, the demands and expectations seem to still be different for women.
As women, we feel the responsibility to take care of the house, the children and the husband in addition to performing well in our careers. Our phones are the first ones that ring when the school nurse calls informing one of our children is sick and we are the ones being called in the morning by our husbands and children when socks and shirts cannot be found.
At home we are the ones holding the fort. We are the ones juggling behind the scenes making things happen. That is a great skill however, in a work environment this, may bring confusion and discrimination. I know I am not the only woman who has been rejected from a job opportunity after having children or who was thought of as not wanting the job as much as the guy next to me because I am married.
Women are qualified to do any job however, it may help to change things around a bit. In order for us to perform we have to decide what is our role in each situation. Are we the directors or the performers? Do we have to take care of every little detail and troubleshoot all the time? This is something we need to have very clear because it will determine how well we can perform and how we will maintain the energy along the day.
Being able do it all, does not imply we have to do it all. When we try to do it all most likely we end up failing in one place. It is important to know that other people are also capable of doing lesser tasks that would take time away from those things that have a high priority and only you can do.
Whether it is relatives, hired help our our own spouses and children, delegating on others makes our lives more feasible. For some, having a diverse support network may be key. In case one person is suddenly unavailable we will have the option of tapping another one’s shoulders and getting the help we need.
How do I do it? Well..I do not have a magic formula but I have learned the hard way that the more I do the less I get accomplished. While I am still a work in progress with room for improvement, I now delegate more and drop my expectations. Even when things are done differently from how I would do them, if the end result is the same I will take that any day and spend energy on what really matters.
Over the past few months I have upped my game on networking. I have joined a couple of professional women groups and have attended meetings. I have not only met new people, but have met women of different professional backgrounds.
It has been an eye opener how these women support one another and help each other move forward. They cheer on them, promote each other and their businesses and provide accountability. As a business owner and entrepreneur it is very easy to fall back and lag behind on your goals. It is a lonely road that can lead to deviating from your initial plan if you are not focused.
When you have a support system and an accountability group you just make things happen. It has a lot to do with not letting others down. Also, your accountability group can offer tips on better ways of getting where you want to be since most likely there will be people who have already been in a similar situation and can offer their experience.
It is not unusual for people to be discouraged to network, not understanding the importance of it. Many times the return on investment is not appreciated. Let’s be realistic, it takes time and money to network. You may have to spend money on membership fees, travel, and so on however, if you understand the value of what you get in return it is worth it if done right.
If you think you are too busy or too important to network, think again. It can hurt your business or career goals if you don’t. Remember the say; out of sight, out of mind? Well, it’s true. You need to be seen. Even with people whom you’ve known for years, if they don’t see you, they will gradually forget you until they stop thinking about you. Eventually, you become a thing of the past. Why would they think of you and your business?
So long story short, if you want to grow your career or business you should consider networking regularly and meeting new people. Get out of your comfort zone and expand your circle of acquaintances. You’ll be surprised at the relationships you can establish just by getting yourself out there. Who knows?..maybe your next business partner is waiting to meet you.